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    • #1381 Reply
      Austin
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      EDIT by Choice Maker: I have a page about to frenulectomy, the removal of the frenulum, which can be done during a circumcision or afterward. I removed my frenulum myself several years after my circumcision (images here) and am absolutely glad it is gone.

      I would definitely suggest that anyone who is about to get a circumcision ask their urologist or surgeon about the benefits versus the cons of entirely removing the frenulum (the strip of skin that anchors the foreskin to the back of the glans) during their surgery. My understanding is that for many men, this is the most sensitive part of their penis. But some of us have a short frenulum , that can tear or rip during sex. Mine was removed completely during my circumcision.

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    • #1427 Reply
      Gerry
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      There seems to be various opinions about removing the frenulum. I choose my circ at age 21 and didn’t know very much about styles or anything else, but from experience I knew that my frenulum was exquisitely pleasurable. The doc who did me was also circed as an adult and I pretty much left everything up to him. I ended up with a fairly low cut,with m frenulum split from top to bottom. It is perfect with sensation both in the gland and frenular area. I have forgotten almost completely what I even looked like befre mycirc — whenever I bathe, pee, or see myself in nthe mirror,all I see is the mevthat I wanted to be for the first 21 years of my life. When y three boys came along, I made sure that the doc who did ther circumcisions also left part of their frenulums.

    • #1480 Reply
      stefan
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      Austin,

      I guess that the frenulum gives a lot of joy to many men. To me, the sensations were pleasure mixed with pain, as mine was too short (frenulum breve). When I got it the frenulum cut in a frenulotomy, the pain mostly disappeared and I did not lose (or miss) any sensitivity.

      A few years later I chose a low and moderately tight circumcision. In discussing the plan, the urologist noted “the frenulum is still there, in two parts” and he suggested excising it completely, which turned out to be the right choice for me: I’ve had no pain whatsoever since my cut; and again, I have not noticed or missed any loss of sensation.

    • #4882 Reply
      cricri
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      My surgeon said me it was useful to remove the frenulum to give some help in ensuring the glans to be completely free, dry and clean (i.e. completely uncovered) in any circumstances. So he completely removed it and I do not regret : it is replaced by a smooth and very sensitive small triangle…

    • #4938 Reply
      cricri
      Guest

      The second paragraph of my post disappeared when I posted it !
      I must say that one year ago my wife and I decided to have our 9 y. o. son circumcised with frenulum removal. He got a low and very tight circumcision; so his glans is totally and permanently exposed but the penis shaft was a little shortened by the surgery so it stays always in a horizontal position when soft. However the surgeon says all will be fine when he will go through puberty, and his penis will grow up. And we hope so !

      • #5046 Reply
        cir94
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        I received the same circumcision as your son when I was 14. He will end up with much less sensitivity and take a long time to orgasm, but it will be worth it. I’ve found that orgasms are far stronger and that I am very good at pleasing my partners since I always cum after they do. It’s much less sensitive than a high circ, but I think he will really enjoy it

    • #5115 Reply
      cricri
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      cir94,
      Thank you for your message. You were low-tight circumcised when you were 14 and myself I was 15 : so our situations are nearly similar; I know we take a longer time to cum with very strong orgasms and I know we are quite good partners. But my son is younger and I am afraid to think that one day he could have erections too much stretched and painful… However your message is very positive and I hope you and my doctor are right and my son will have a fulfilling sex life, enjoying his low-tight circumcision.

      • #7025 Reply
        stefan
        Guest

        As far as I know, the low-tight style will not cause pain because the outer foreskin and shaft skin are more stretchable than inner foreskin.

    • #5224 Reply
      Sam
      Guest

      Out of curiosity how long do you now take to orgasm with low and tight cuts? I had mine done in December and I’m really struggling because it’s like I can’t orgasm without masturbating so sex is far less passionate. The orgasms are incredibly strong but there is definitely a desire to be able to finish faster.

      • #7023 Reply
        stefan
        Guest

        Rest assured that things will get better! When I was cut in my late twenties, I needed a year or two to fully adapt…

        “Relearning” takes quite some time — depending on a nunber of factors like age, shower/grower, tightness and lowness. Out of curiousity: How low is your ‘low’? My ‘low’ is a bit below 0.4 inches.

        I’d like to add that treatment using natural oinments helped by softening my circumcision scar.

        All the best!

    • #5263 Reply
      cricri
      Guest

      As a low-tight circumcised man my masturbation sessions take about fifteen or twenty minutes to orgasm with very low and very small movements on the shaft (not glans), without lubricant. The orgasm is really great and strong.
      Intercourse needs also a long time inside my partner but I do not wish to finish faster. The orgasm rises slowly, then it explodes in all my body (nipples and also anus take part of it).

      • #5410 Reply
        Sam
        Guest

        But how long does that take? 30 minutes? An hour?

    • #5618 Reply
      cricri
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      With my partner that depends on circumstances. I would say about half an hour: the difficulty is to keep the highest level without coming: the penis so straight and tight in her vagina, with very small movements, body against body, nipples stroking nipples Whaou !.. then all explode!!

    • #6957 Reply
      James
      Guest

      I was circumcised for health reasons a few years ago due to health reasons. My doctor advised that removing the frenulum would be beneficial. I was given a low and tight cut with the frenulum removed. I can’t say that i have any issues in regards to loss of sensitivity, but orgasms are certainly much better. I’m very happy with the results

      • #7024 Reply
        stefan
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        Same with me!

        More than a decade later, all I can do is recommend this particular circumcision style. Honestly, I’m very glad I’m cut.

    • #6983 Reply
      Mike
      Guest

      I was re-circumcised to tighten my original high and tight circumcision which had become loose over the years. Unlike many of my peers, I still had my frenulum. It would bunch up underneath the head when I was flaccid and I didn’t like the appearance of that. While I had a high circumcision, I had to lose some inner foreskin during the second procedure. During my re-circumcision I also took the opportunity to request that my frenulum be totally removed. I now have an extra tight circumcision that is medium high with a perfectly​ smooth underside. I love the way it looks and feels. I use lube to masturbate and focus on both the head and the smooth area where my frenulum used to be. The extra tightness produces extra strong orgasms. I would recommend a high and tight circumcision with the frenulum removed for both infant and adult circumcisions.

    • #7059 Reply
      Joe
      Guest

      Although it has been many years since I was circumcised, I did not have much problems with sensitivity after the fact. I was in the military at the time and had to wait (there wasn’t much privacy for masturbation) until I got home for sex with the wife. That meant about five weeks of healing before the fist time of sex. I didn’t notice much of a problem although sex did (and does) last longer and my wife was able to achieve organism much easier after I was clipped (what we called it in the military at the time). I had a high and tight cut with the frenulum removed and have never noticed much change in sensitivity. I will agree with those above, although it was not voluntary at the time, I am very glad that I was circumcised and wouldn’t change a thing. I just wish I had been circumcised earlier.

    • #7067 Reply
      Subrata
      Guest

      Attaining orgasm much depends on how the sensation is triggered on the scar line or on the sulcus. The time is delayed marginally only after circumcision. Since mine is quite high cut there is no remarkable change in time.

    • #7344 Reply
      Choice Maker
      Keymaster

      I would like to refer people to my recent experience removing my frenulum. TLDR: I wish I had done it a looooong time ago.

    • #7451 Reply
      Jack
      Guest

      Mine was high and relatively tight- the redundant skin wasn’t too long and the frenulum was pretty loose. As a result, I kept the frenulum and still have a bare head when soft. I think a lot of it is down to your personal ‘shape’ in that area and the skill of the surgeon. I imagine if a guy has a long foreskin and a short frenulum, he’d probably have to have it cut during the operation.

    • #7455 Reply
      N A
      Guest

      I had my frenulum removed in my circ (see my thread). I’m a bit disappointed due to the fact it is so responsive to touch. I have a triangle of skin underneath, with the scab coming off, but no feeling there (yet; 11 days into recovery). So far feels like a mistake.

      Does this area experience a lot of sensation during sex?

    • #7560 Reply
      Tony
      Guest

      I can’t believe these conversations. You men that should know better discussing the mutilatoin of your boys.i was cut at a young age and it’s caused all sorts of mental anguish. I think it’s discusting forcing this surgery on your children. Let them make their own choice when there old enough to make the dessision.

    • #9073 Reply
      david webb
      Guest

      I think having your frenulum removed is the best thing you can do, I know I feel cleaner and free, my glands are totally eposed, and there is nothing I can do about it.

    • #9074 Reply
      Timmy
      Guest

      I have the fren removed. It used to be the most sensitive spot and my wife would lick it. Now the circ scar is the most sensitive spot. It is farther Down the shaft and now she licks there .

    • #12045 Reply
      Jim
      Guest

      I think the frenulumless penis with also a very high and tight circumcision with no foreskin left is the ultimate look for an attractive penis a male can achieve!

    • #20155 Reply
      Graham
      Guest

      Jim,

      Totally agree with you. A well-circumcised penis with all of the frenulum removed is the ultimate streamlined smooth and clean look for any male. Something to admire.

      Graham, UK

    • #20544 Reply
      mike
      Guest

      im 16 year old teen boy. I have discussed w my mother and the doctor for the full removal of my frenulum and remaining foreskin to be stretched as much as possible. im told this will keep me from being able to have as much sexual pleasure and most likely prevent me from being able to masturbate. ive accepted this.

    • #40304 Reply
      svdmvs
      Guest

      May frenelum was cut away too, but looks much better, and yes you loose some pleasure.
      But here in Belgium, you don ‘t have to pay extra if it is done like they do it there own way.
      That means, frenelum away, low and tight, that’s the way i went. But must say masturbations are out
      of the question, there is no skin enough any more, so don’t try, it only hurts. But of course i continue to masturbate, but only rub my glans with oil or lubricant, but with some piercings in my glans you Always has to be carefull. In that way it takes a longer time to ejaculate but that gives more sensual pleasure.

    • #41600 Reply
      Robert
      Guest

      I was given a medium circ as an infant, but am going in for a revision this year. Want to get very low and tight <2mm and the frenulum totally removed.
      For me I welcome the added time to ejaculate, and I am very keen on the look. For years I had a habit of completely focusing on the frenulum, and not touching the glans much at all. Then I started tying off my inner skin with a small string (pulling it forward and restricting it from touch). I started getting really into coronal orgasms.
      Once it’s said and done I don’t think I’ll miss it

    • #41605 Reply
      Charlie
      Guest

      Robert,
      I don’t think you’ll miss frenulum. I removed mine, still sensitive where it was, coronal stimulation is what really feels good to me as well.
      Hope your revision goes well and you get desired results.

    • #42259 Reply
      David
      Guest

      An interesting discussion here about the frenulum. My circumcision is high and tight, and I have a notably flared glans and a prominent corona. My scar line is quite faint and, when fully erect, my shaft skin allows reasonably little movement, consistent with the style of my cut. I have a very full frenulum remnant however, which becomes fully taut when I am hard but when flaccid, forms a notable fold in the skin on the underside of my cock. I love it and would not consider a revision but recognise that circumcision purists probably favour full excision. Does anyone here recognise what I describe? I am based in the UK and a keen nudist: I therefore have more opportunity than many to see a full range of circumcision styles, accepting that being circumcised in the UK means that one is very definitely part of a minority – I estimate that no more than 15% of men I see in UK nudist settings are circumcised. I would love to hear from others who are nicely and proudly circumcised like me but similarly have a very ample frenulum. Does anyone recognise this style of cut?

    • #43001 Reply
      David
      Guest

      I am really very keen to hear from others who may have experience of my style of circumcision: high and tight with a full frenulum. Thoughts and observations?

      • #44728 Reply
        matt
        Guest

        A friend of mine is high and tight but retained his full frenulum. He has never expressed any interest or even mentioned masturbation but is and always has been very sexually active with females. He was horrified at the idea of losing his frenulum when we compared circumcisions. He actually seemed quite concerned that mine had been removed and suggested I should sue! LOL. We’re both straight but have been very good friends for a long time. He jokes that “we’re twins”, but my circumcision is not as impressive in my opinion and his glans is also much fuller looking but much paler in colour and more keratinised looking too.

    • #43074 Reply
      Jack
      Guest

      I was able to keep my frenulum despite having a CI-2 otherwise. The skin was a little looser on the underside of the shaft but was fine on erection, this worked out pretty well as it meant the top of the head was exposed to my clothes (and it looked good), with a small amount of slack below that allowed me to keep a natural ‘curve’ on erection and let me keep the frenulum, even without enough foreskin when soft to touch the corona. I think it’s a good style to have, though I didn’t plan for that!

    • #43150 Reply
      David
      Guest

      Thank you, Jack. That is really very helpful and interesting. Like you, although my frenulum is reasonably full, my glans is permanently (and proudly!) exposed and there is no prospect of it ever being covered. My circumcision scar – which is anyway relatively faint – is a long way from my glans (high) and corona, which is quite prominently flared. Always good to hear from others.

    • #43358 Reply
      Graham
      Guest

      David – we were exchanging thoughts on one of the other forums on circumcision. I am interested to read about your style of circumcision, notably how much foreskin you have left, and the fact that you retain a prominent frenulum. I have quite a tight frenulum which I’ve never particularly liked because it pulls on my glans – so when a consultant explained that he would look to completely remove it as part of the circumcision it seemed like an easy decision. I think it will look neater without.

      I agree with you on the numbers of circumcised UK men. It always surprises me compared to many other parts of the world – but maybe nudists have different preferences and can see the benefits more readily.

    • #44724 Reply
      Greg
      Guest

      Hi Everyone,

      I am 33 and I have my circumcsion scheduled for tuesday. I already had the consultation last week. When me and my wife were meeting with the doctor he asked us if I wanted the frenulum removed and we didn’t know what that was. The doctor explained what it was, but did not give an opinion on whether i should be removed or not. when we got home my wife and i talked. i said i guess it’s part of the foreskin so it should go. She did some research and came back to me and said it’s the most sensitive part so maybe it should stay. We are confused as to the pluses and minuses of keeping it or cutting it. I have 2 days and I’m very anxious because I know on tuesday the Dr. will ask me again and I don’t know what to tell him.

      Any advice?

      By the way, the reason for the circumcision is because my wife thinks its more hygienic, looks better, and it more masculine. I agree that it will look better, not sure about her other points, but I also am tired of painful sex sometimes because the foreskin tears.

      • #44735 Reply
        Cassie
        Guest

        Greg,

        It’s up to you but I’d say remove it. Once the foreskin is gone there really isn’t any need for that skin and it will be in the way.

    • #44725 Reply
      mason
      Guest

      Dear Greg, First of all, congratulations for having the courage to make an appointment to have your circumcision. I agree with your wife on all three points. Circumcision is a ritual of attaining manhood in many cultures–likely because the exposure of the glans mimics the erect penis–and since it is constant and permanent is a symbol of potency. In those cultures it signifies that a young man is ready for adult sex. In my opinion, the hygenic and aesthetic aspects speak for themselves. As to the removal of the frenulum, this is debatable and is really a personal choice. I had mine removed as I wanted a “full and complete circumcision,” and found that there was no difference in sensation. Others have different opinions, however. It is the coronal ridge that is most important in penetrative sex. Some say the nerves are below the skin in the area where the frenlum is, and this has been my experience. Another matter to consider is whether your frenulum is tight. In that case it could draw any remaining foreskin down on the corona, causing bunching of skin at that place. Ideally circumcision removes enough skin that there is no bunching of skin behind the corona, as this aids cleanliness and aesthetic appearance. The frenulum can impede this benefit. Many find a smooth appearance on the underside of the penis resulting from the removal of the frenulum to be sexually stimulating. Men circumcised as infants typically do not have much if any frenular tissue, as it is either removed in the infant circumcision or never develops. A fully exposed glans can sometimes over time “flare out” after the cirumcision, something that is very common in many but not all circumcised men. Again, the sexual advantages are obvious. So it is something you have to weigh out. The main thing, from my point of view, is to be circumcised with or without retaining the frenulum. You did not ask, but the main complaint of men circumcised as adults is that they did not ask the surgeon to remove every bit of the foreskin. Foreskin problems are no fun and they get worse as the years pass. Getting circumcised is a bit embarassing, but less so when you realize how many men get it done! The short period of healing and consequent requirement of abstinance from sex is well worth the inconvenience. (After all, there are other ways to make love!) In any event, I am so vert glad I had it done when I was 26, and I’ll bet you will be, too. Feel free to ask anything else and let us know how things develop. All of us on this site have wrestled with the questions you asked, and for us, at least, adult circumcision was the right answer. Your surgeon has most likely been circumcised, and if it were a bad thing, he would not be willing to perform the operation on you! All best, Mason

    • #44730 Reply
      Peter & Natasha
      Guest

      Hi Greg. Congratulations on forthcoming circumcision! Your wife is correct – circumcised penises are better in every way.

      Regarding frenulum removal, this is my experience: I was circumcised as a baby. I had a revision when I was 20 as I wanted the skin to be super-tight and I also had my frenulum removed for aesthetic reasons – I thought it would look better. Indeed it does, but that area has also become more sensitive in a pleasant way – a nice bonus. So for me, the main sensations there were under the frenulum, rather than the frenulum itself.

      What style circumcision are you going for? Good luck with the op, and it would be lovely if you let us know how it goes. Peter

    • #44746 Reply
      Sandy
      Guest

      Hi guys, really enjoyed reading all your experiences and information. I am uncircumsized, but I am considering removing my frenulum without a full circumcision. Wonder if that is possible.
      The reason for my decision, is that my frenulum, which is very fleshy, is so sensitive, that I cum in seconds, even if a female handles it, or as I enter the love passage!! I have survived on numbing sprays to have sex.

      • #44747 Reply
        matt
        Guest

        If your frenulum is more than a thin strip that you could numb and poke a needle through and tie off yourself to divide it, then you should see a doctor. Do not cut yourself. I wouldnt opt for a frenulum removal in favour of a full circumcision though. If youre going to have an anaesthetic anyway, even just a local, then you may as well use the opportunity more wisely. The frenulum removal is the most painful aspect of a circumcision, so get the lot taken care on in one hit. You’d be sure to calm down that sensitivity too.

    • #44749 Reply
      greg
      Guest

      well, it’s done. glad it’s over with. my wife and I went back and for about the frenulum all weekend. in the end the doctor did ask before the nurse started applying the disinfectant. i asked he what he thought, and he said he can tell that it has already torn before, so theres just 2 or 3 separate pieces there now so we might as well remove them, and he did do that.

    • #44750 Reply
      Charlie
      Guest

      Greg, congratulations on successful circumcision. Wise decision on the frenulum removal. Keep us informed as your healing progresses and how you feel about your new status.

    • #44755 Reply
      G S
      Guest

      Congratulations Greg. What method was used?

    • #44758 Reply
      matt
      Guest

      Well done Greg. Yes, it’s best to allow the surgeon to do his best work and tidy everything up, including the frenulum or any remnants. Congratulations. Welcome to the club! In 4 weeks, you’ll really start to appreciate the new you. It’ll soon pass. The next couple of days will be the worst of it, as I recall.

    • #44760 Reply
      Peter & Natasha
      Guest

      Congratulations on getting circumcised! This is one of the best decisions you could ever make. It is better in every way. And good to hear that you had your frenulum removed as well. Peter

    • #44771 Reply
      Sandy
      Guest

      Thank you Matt for your quick reply.
      If I go for a circumcision as well, which one would be the best to reduce sensation?
      I read in some forums some men said that after the circumcision/frenulum removal, they took longer to come. That’s exactly what I need !!!
      Any ideas?

    • #46249 Reply
      bald
      Guest

      I’m a 26 year old high and tight circumcised guy. I’m and thinking about having my frenulum removed. Should I? Do you loose a lot of sensitivity? How long does it take to heal?

      • #46250 Reply
        Kenneth
        Guest

        My frenulum was removed when I was circumcised (at birth). I think not having a frenulum looks better. I think I still have a lot of sensitivity, I have no problems even though I can’t compare before and after.

    • #46251 Reply
      Charlie
      Guest

      Bald, I removed my frenulum when circumcised as adult. I do not feel like I lost anything from a sensitivity issue. The place where frenulum attached is still sensitive as is my circ scar. However, each man has different feeling/sensation to some degree with their penis. Some hypersensitive some not. Like Kenneth says, I too think no frenulum looks better. Regarding healing that’s an individual thing too. Some men just heal faster. My circumcision and frenulum removal were healed in four weeks.
      Some guys take longer.

    • #46254 Reply
      ScanianDude
      Guest

      Removed frenulum during adult circ, feel no loss whatsoever 13 years since i got cut now

      Cheers/ThatScanianDude

    • #46260 Reply
      Dwayne
      Guest

      I had my frenulum surgically removed years before I had a circumcision and I definitely lost sensitivity in that area. It now feels no different to anywhere else around the circumference really. I’d only suggest removal if it gets sore or otherwise impedes pleasure, otherwise leave it be.

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