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    • #1107 Reply
      Mick G
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      This topic has been on my mind a lot lately. My wife and I are having a boy in a couple weeks and its something I’ve been putting off thinking about. I’m uncut and its just normal for guys in my family, but lately I’ve been thinking a lot about it.

      I’m currently in a week or so long experiment of leaving it down throughout the day. Sometimes it gets pretty uncomfortable and painful, so I’ll tuck it back in.

      First question – is there any adverse effects of doing that? It feels kinda like self-mutilation

      My goal is to either:
      1. Help me make a decision by living circumcised for a bit or
      2. Get best of both worlds. Desensitize my self for sex and be able to leave it open throughout the day.

      My main motivation is smell. It seems trite, but there’s all the self-conciousness that comes with that.

      This site is the only place I’ve found with people who might remotely understand and has already answered so many of my questions.

    • #1108 Reply
      David
      Guest

      Mick,

      I read your post and, from what I’ve read on different sites, what you are doing is not uncommon. If you do a search under “permanent foreskin retraction”,”training foreskin to stay back” or similar words, you will find much info and opinions about this. Some of the opinions are for it while others are opposed. My opinion is, that as long as your foreskin is healthy;no phimosis or paraphimosis or other medical issues;it is prefectly fine to do this. I’m not cut and have tried this. It’s somewhat difficult for me to do this because my foreskin is rather thick. When it was back, I liked the appearance. Keeping your foreskin back will help you with deciding about getting circumcised. How does your wife feel about you keeping your foreskin back? How does she feel about circumcision? You said you and your wife are having a boy. Are you going to have him circumcised? If I ever have a son,my first preference would be to let him decide as a teen if he wants to be circumcised. However, if I’m living in a place where most boys are cut, he will be circumcised at birth. I would not want him to grow up with the bad feeling I grew up with being uncut. I’m considering getting circumcised for body image and health reasons. I think you’re making a good choice for yourself.You are not mutilating your body. Your reasons are truly valid. Wishing you all the best. Keep us all posted on how things are going

      David

      • #1111 Reply
        Mick
        Guest

        Thanks, I really appreciate it. I don’t think I have any of those medical issues. It was pretty tight and painful when I started having sex because it would get pulled back, but that was years ago and I have little trouble pulling it back, and no problem keeping it down (i guess that’s an issue for some men due to your search term suggestion?)

        I’m in my early 30’s and have never had any issues with it. I wasn’t big into sports either tho, so maybe not as many locker room experiences as other guys. As far as my wife’s opinion, she doesn’t really have one. We’ve both only been with each other so she hasn’t experienced any others to compare it to. She’s preoccupied with the pregnancy. Our plan now is to circumcise. Which is what got me thinking about it. Of course I do agree with the idea of letting him decide, in this part of the world (my guess is 90%-95% circumcised) I don’t think anyone would fault me for it. I would say I’ve never met a circumcised man who regretted it, but I do have a friend where it was cut to low, and experiences pain from the scar tissue (I tuned out after the story got a bit graphic)

        So far it does feel cleaner, I’m enjoying it. Some mild irritation right at the uretha tho. I suspect that might be the “drying” process? Feels better when I pee, and like I said, I can always cover it back up. I know very little about this stuff… and I have weak stomach… honestly, I can only read this site in pieces, just a lot of D talk to take it all in at once.

    • #1110 Reply
      Drew
      Guest

      I wasn’t circumcised as a kid and I always felt like I was weird or an outsider because all the other guys in my area were cut. The summer before I entered junior high I was out fishing with my uncle. I had to stop to piss as we were walking to the lake and my uncle said “you’re not circumcised.” Of course I was embarrassed but he was really cool. Uncle Joe asked to check my foreskin. He pushed it back to expose the head and then pulled it forward. He said it was good that the skin would retract but “you need to keep the foreskin pushed back until you get circumcised.”

      Uncle Joe explained that he also had a long foreskin that extended beyond the head of his penis. He played baseball and suffered minor irritations while sweating in his athletic supporter. He said he got tired of dealing with the foreskin and got circumcised when he joined the army. He told me the worst part of the procedure was the overly sensitive penis head rubbing against his clothing. He described the procedure, showed my his circumcised penis and explained why I should keep the skin retracted. When I was cut at age 18, my head was already used to being exposed.

      So keep your foreskin retracted, see if you like the feeling. If you decide to get a circumcision, you won’t have to worry about excessive sensitivity.

      • #1112 Reply
        Mick
        Guest

        thanks Drew! Thats a great story, you sound lucky to have an uncle willing to talk to you about it. Nowadays I’d be afraid of going to jail if I had a conversation like that with a nephew (don’t have any yet, I might feel different in a couple years when they start coming).

        and its good advice, thanks

    • #1113 Reply
      David
      Guest

      Mick,
      Glad to read your post. It sounds like you’re progressing with keeping it back.You are making a good choice. If you like what you are experiencing, it is a good choice. It sounds like you are from the USA; what region are you from? Overall, the majority of US males are circumcised;the exception being some of the states in the West Coast. Are you going to get circumcised? Best wishes to you and your wife for a healthy baby! Keep us posted on how you all are doing.

      David

    • #1114 Reply
      David
      Guest

      Drew,

      I read your well-written post and can totally relate to your experiences and feelings growing up uncut. I had the same feelings as well. You were lucky to have an uncle who advised you to keep your foreskin back until you were circumcised. I wish I had been given that advice. This subject in the forum is creating some good responses. All uncircumcised boys with healthy foreskins should be informed about keeping it skinned back and they should be given good information about circumcision. This way they can make an informed choice about their bodies at a time when they are of age to start getting the benefits of circumcision. Keeping the foreskin back is a great way to prepare for being circumcised, as you will start experiencing what being circumcised will be like. Your advice is spot-on!

    • #1138 Reply
      Joe Frazer
      Guest

      These are great stories. I wish I had known of this when I was a teenager. I remember when I came home from boot camp, nearly clipped and had sex for the first time with my wife; I was amazed. the sex was great and I was able to keep going a whole lot longer and the organism was greater than anything I had experienced before. I don’t know if it will be that way for you Drew but I hope that it is. I too wish I had had an uncle who had told me what to do and it would have made my teenage years easier.

    • #1140 Reply
      Brian
      Guest

      i have kept my foreskin retracted for years now so keep it up! i prefer it this way so am now considering getting it cut off as it doesn’t really serve any purpose… i wish i had an uncle that would have helped me out like yours did Drew!

    • #1142 Reply
      David
      Guest

      I’m finding that keeping the foreskin back is not that uncommon. I have been doing it off and on. I’m thinking about getting circumcised. I think you have made a good choice. I wish I had an uncle like Drew had to tell me about keeping it back. My teen years would have been easier.

    • #1158 Reply
      Drew
      Guest

      Glad that my response was helpful to you guys!I think there are many uncut males who shared similar experiences about being the “odd man out.” A site like this is so very useful to guys who think they are suffering alone with a difficult situation.

      Like so many others have said, the ONLY regret is that you didn’t get circumcised sooner. Some municipalities have big signs in road construction zones which apply to adult circumcision: Temporary Inconvenience, Permanent Improvement.

    • #1160 Reply
      David
      Guest

      Hi Drew,

      Glad to read your post. Your response has definitely been a help to all of us here. Totally support training the foreskin to stay back before getting circumcised. I said it before; all uncircumcised boys with healthy foreskins should be educated about keeping their foreskins back and about the benefits of circumcision. This way they can make the best informed decisions for their personal health. Wish I had an uncle like yours! Training the foreskin back is a great way to prepare for entering a new phase of life as a circumcised man.

    • #1161 Reply
      Nick
      Guest

      I kept my foreskin pulled back on and off from the age of about 17 for varying lengths of time. I went ‘full-time’ for four and half years before my circumcision. It had the benefit of allowing my glans to dry out and acclimatize, so after the ‘cut’ there was no painful over-sensitivity which many guys get.

      I belonged to a number of ‘skin-back’ groups and sites, and it is amazing how many guys keep their foreskins back. Some do it more easily than others. Some do it because they like the look or feel; or to ‘pass’ as circumcised; or they were told to by their parents or brothers or partners; some for hygiene; and some because it is just more comfortable – they usually have big glans and a rather tight skin. Many go on to be circumcised. I also know a few guys who have such short foreskins that they retracted naturally during puberty. I gather that in Japan lads are taught to keep their foreskins pulled back from an early age, and so they all have exposed glans.

    • #1162 Reply
      David
      Guest

      Hi Nick!

      I have been involved off and on with skinned back groups like yourself. This is definitely not an uncommon practice. I have skinned back off and on. I’m hoping to get mine to stay back 24/7 to prepare for getting circumcised. In Japan, it is part of normal life for boys to skin back early. Living fully retracted for 4 years gave you plenty of time to know what circumcised life would be like. What style circumcision do you have? I’m considering a low cut and moderately tight. All boys not cut at birth, with healthy foreskins should be educated about skinning back and about the benefits of circumcision. It’s about health and overall well-being.

    • #1167 Reply
      Nick
      Guest

      David –

      I know loads of guys who keep their foreskins pulled back – usually for aesthetic reasons. There certainly seems to be a perception that having an exposed glans is more ‘manly’. I think that doing so from a young age allows the glans to develop unconstricted and thus flare out, and also the foreskin does not grow with the penis, as there is nothing to make it do so. I think the foreskin may even shrink a bit.

      I have a high a medium-tight cut, as it allows for ‘growth’ ;)

    • #1169 Reply
      David
      Guest

      Hi Nick!

      Thanks for your reply. Thanks for the info on keeping the foreskin pulled back. Since you were skinned back for some time before your circumcision, you are in a position to speak from experience rather than someone that has either grown up cut or uncut. I’ve come to the conclusion that only guys who have chosen to get cut have the knowledge and life experience to say which is better. From everything I’ve read on message boards in different groups, the vast majority of males circumcised as teens or adults are glad they had it done and DO NOT WANT their foreskins back. To me, that speaks volumes.

    • #1262 Reply
      George
      Guest

      Before my circ this past February, I had kept my foreskin permanently retracted for about 10 years. I first started to do it because I joined a gym with a public changing area and felt odd being (LITERALLY) the only uncut guy there. Eventually I went permanent and stayed with my glans exposed until my foreskin was removed. I found it helped adjusting to being circumcised because I was already accustomed to having my glans permanently exposed.

    • #1297 Reply
      Jason Rork
      Guest

      I am currently precut, I love hearing about guys living skinned back, and wish I could do it 24/7, but sometimes my foreskin just for no apparent reason slides over the head and usually pulls some pubic hair under it.
      This is extremely painful and irritating as well as embarrassing, as I either have to reach in my pants and skin back or excuse myself and go to a public restroom where I can readjust myself, sometimes to the chagrin of other males. When having sex I skin back and use a vaccuum pump with a silicone ring to keep the foreskin retracted, all of my partners prefer cut cock, so I try to keep it stripped as though I am cut until, I can get the thing fixed.
      Thanks guys, I wish I knew of these sites where guys talk about keeping their skin back permanently .

    • #1299 Reply
      David
      Guest

      Jason,

      I like your term “precut” for an uncircumcised guy who is considering getting cirucmcised. If you are considering keeping your foreskin back until you get cut, you may want to think about either trimming your pubic hair or completely shaving it. I completely shave mine. Personal preference. It prevents pubic hair getting trapped under the foreskin. I’m “precut” now. I think the term precut establishes in one’s mind that circumcision is in one’s future.

    • #1352 Reply
      Jason Rork
      Guest

      Thanks David, I now have a gay bodybuilder, who visits my home every month to shave and shampoo with a 4% selenium shampoo, and Palmolive
      for Men Classic Palm Extract Shave Cream rubbing it liberally into the retracted head. What is happening is the head is becoming call used,
      Developing a leathery texture, so it takes longer for me to reach orgasm.
      I am most pleased, as this slows down my firing time, in perpetration for the final Cut, my head will be prepared for public exposure!

    • #1356 Reply
      Charles
      Guest

      I’m not circumcised and never will be and just stumbled upon this fucked up site. Why would any man choose to cut part of his dick off? Dudes, this is NOT normal.

      • #1373 Reply
        Choice Maker
        Keymaster

        Charles,

        I realize this is a late reply, but…

        Some men have different desires for their body than you do. I am willing to concede that the majority of uncircumcised adult men wish to remain that way, but why would you try to degrade those who do not?

        By attacking men who are deciding whether to pursue a voluntary and informed adult circumcision you are effectively saying that they should not be permitted control of their own bodies.

    • #1357 Reply
      Mark
      Guest

      I am British, and 27. Most British blokes are uncut, but when I was 14 during a school medical it was decided I needed to be circumcised because of “irritation”. I was lucky in that I was able to explain to the doctor how I was worried about the mickey taking at school and feeling different. They gave me what they called a minimal circumcision, and when you look at me, you can just see the head exposed (a bit like you look when you are starting to get hard). When I am fully erect I look fully circumcised (and you can see the scar), but I had the best of both worlds. I didn’t get picked on at school, I always feel clean and the fact that the top part of the cock is exposed means I don’t have any problems when I pee – no smell during the summer, and no smegma, but I do shower every day of course.

      Hope this helps. Just to answer Charles, I am wondering if he is British?. Here even in London it is quite unusual for a white middle class bloke to be circumcised, so it seems unusual, but in the States the opposite is true and you would get taken the mickey of because you are not cut

    • #1358 Reply
      Jason
      Guest

      I have since my Father showed me his cock, wanted to be like him and have a real Man’s cock, a clipcock, nice and sleek, with a big exposed helmet head, hard thick and proud, like my Dad’s. he said when I became a man I would choose to be circumsized and join the brotherhood of men, but until then I would be subservient to any man who was circumsized because they were exposed and proud of their nakedness to the world. it has been my desire to become that which my Father was, by skinning back and keeping my foreskin hidden until I can find the approximate man to cut this baby fat away from my manhood, high and tight!

    • #1359 Reply
      George
      Guest

      I’m pretty sure that’s all bullshit, Jason.

    • #1380 Reply
      Austin
      Guest

      George, please be respectful of other people’s posts. Jason was making his point and you were being rude. I have found that those of you for want to ‘train’ the foreskin to stay back – you can find on amazon.com some foreskin rings that you place upon the retracted foreskin. The ring keeps the glans exposed.

    • #1408 Reply
      Jason Rork
      Guest

      Thank you Austin! As a matter of fact I am looking into frenulum rings both temporary to see what it is like to be circumsized and the possibility of having a permanent frenulum ring installed just below the head of my penis.
      Any imput as to anyone’s experience with this way of keeping the foreskin retracted would be greatly appreciated!
      Thanks, Jason

    • #1415 Reply
      Jason Rork
      Guest

      Has anyone heard of tried this new product? at stealthinnerwear.com you can be fitted for a personal garment that you wear twenty-four hours that keeps your foreskin retracted.

    • #1428 Reply
      dave
      Guest

      I certainly agree that keeping retracted and being circumcised is the way to go.I was born midcentury and of course no internet or not much other information about such matters. My parents never talked about anything sexual so they were no help. Our house had no plumbing and little privacy. Most other boys were circumcised so they knew nothing about taking care of a foreskin. My foreskin would get so sore and stinky so I started keeping it retracted and learned how to turn the skin under inside to make it stay better. I had a long elephant trunk foreskin and a penis that shrinks down when soft so it was difficult to make it stay. I didn’t know if it was wierd to do that or if any other guys did that. When I needed another minor surgery I had a circumcision done. What a relief. My wonderful wife was glad i did it too and liked much better. Now I have lived half my life without a foreskin and and so glad I had it done and never missed dirty stinky soreskin. How I wish I had this information when I was young. I think every uncircumcised should be told about these matters so they can make theit own choice. I am glad my glans was used to exposure when I got cut and was no problem.

      • #3871 Reply
        Mark
        Guest

        One day in the shower I discovered how to tuck the inner foreskin under the outer skin. I simulated a circumcised penis for several years this way. The constricting ring at inner/outer foreskin kept the inner foreskin tucked under. And was just behind the glans. I was so proud for my simulated circumcision that I went and got a real circumcision

    • #1524 Reply
      Yan
      Guest

      I am diabetic (type 2) and I have run a battle against posthite and balanite for 10 years. I had to upgrade the anti fungus cream a couple of times and the last one, Canestan, created irritation and pain worse than the treated condition. I have spoken with my doctor who sent me to see an urologist and strongly recommended me to follow the urologist recommendation.

      The specialist agreed with my family doctor and recommended circumcision. He have me signed consent form and put my name in the local hospital waiting list. From that point, I have decided to pull my foreskin back and keep it that way 7/24.

      After 11 weeks in the waiting list, I am scheduled to be circumcised tomorrow (March 9th.).

      I think that keeping my foreskin back for 2 and half month will make my recovery easier. Sur, I expect to feel some pain where the skin will be cut but I won’t feel the discomfort of the glan rubbing my underwear. This “disensibilisation” process has happened in the past so the over sensible glan won’t be a problem for me.

      I an a lucky Canadian who enjoy single pay public health care system. The doctors and the surgery are free (no copayment and no deductible), I will probably have to by some bandage, Polysporin and/or pain medicine (budget 50 dollars) and that’s it.

    • #1620 Reply
      Jason
      Guest

      I am currently looking for a surgeon, who is uncircumsized, to do my circumsizion, because he would be more aware of what an uncut would be going through and therefore more sensitive to my needs and desire!
      Has anyone had good experience with the device to keep their foreskin back and/or has anyone gotten a foreskin ring that is successful in keeping the foreskin back?
      Jason?

    • #3398 Reply
      Jason
      Guest

      Anybody still around, keeping their foreskin retracted, other than me?5

    • #3418 Reply
      American
      Guest

      I am trying to but nothing seems to work, thoughts ?

      • #3472 Reply
        Choice Maker
        Keymaster

        Being able to keep the foreskin retracted varies widely from man to man, and at a minimum depends on how much foreskin there is (especially if there is overhang), how tight it is, and how tight the frenulum attaching it to the glans is. Some men can do it, some men can’t. Personally, I could never get it to stay retracted for any length of time without some sort of adhesive tape to hold it in place.

    • #3981 Reply
      Charles
      Guest

      Before I got circumcised I kept my foreskin pulled back all of the time so I would look cut. Plus for me it felt better. My foreskin was easily retractable so it worked well for me. But I could hardly wait until I was an adult and could get circumcised! It was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. Faking being circumcised only comes close to to the real thing. Not having a foreskin is awesome. My penis feels better and looks better flaccid and erect. So leaving it down is fine if that’s what a person wants, it does no harm. This is of course my personal experience and opinion.

      • #7027 Reply
        stefan
        Guest

        First ‘keep pulled back’ and then ‘cut’ is a good strategy. I did it like that, too.

    • #4416 Reply
      Jason
      Guest

      I would love to see your Barenaked Head, Free and out, and pictures?
      jason3374@att.net
      Jason

    • #6618 Reply
      Alex B
      Guest

      I started to keep my foreskin retracted last year, after reading the site autocircumcision.wordpress.com
      I made the silicone glans ring myself, using the silicone baking mat.
      It very comfortable and simple device for permanent foreskin retraction.

    • #38769 Reply
      j. madhav
      Guest

      The only times I have kept it down in public was when I was in a few clothing optional beaches. Wreck’s Beach Vancouver. Baker Beach, San Francisco. Black’s Beach, San Diego and Little Beach, Maui, Hawaii. I didn’t notice anyone who seemed to care, but it was a good feeling to have the air/breeze going by.

    • #40638 Reply
      Graham
      Guest

      I often just wear a simple clear silicone glans ring, tucked tightly behind my glans and frenulum to keep my foreskin held back and my glans fully exposed. I agree with Choicemaker that this is a simple way of experiencing a permanently exposed glans. I have a long foreskin which easily hides the ring completely, but my foreskin has never been able to move forward and cover my glans with the glans ring in place. I have worn the glans ring for days, to the nudist beach, in the garden etc. I recommend it. It makes me feel good, hence my desire to get circumcised one day.

    • #44799 Reply
      SUN
      Guest

      How does one go about keeping the foreskin back? A few months ago my fiancee asked if I would get circucmised. I told her I will keep it back all the time as a compromise, but I’m having a hard time doing that. It rolls forward when I sit and at night. I want it to stay back 24/7.

    • #44800 Reply
      G S
      Guest

      Keeping the foreskin retracted is not as easy with a short frenulum. There are rings/bands available that can help. Also have a look at PULLEDBACK.ORG you might get some tips there.

    • #44801 Reply
      Peter & Natasha
      Guest

      SUN – if your fiancée wants you to get circumcised why not do that? It would be a wonderful demonstration of how much you love her. There are so many benefits of circumcision.
      Natasha xx

    • #44805 Reply
      SUN
      Guest

      My GF gave me the idea to use one of her hair bands. It seems to be working well. I just roll back the foreskin and put the hair band behind the ridge of the head. The foreskin is staying back, but now i am realizing how sensitive the head is. I can feel it’s very sensitive rubbing against underwear when I am moving around.

    • #44810 Reply
      SUN
      Guest

      How did you guys who retracted for a while go from that to getting circumcised? Was it a process? How did you make the decision? And how did you ultimately follow through?

      Thanks,
      SUN

    • #44818 Reply
      M
      Guest

      Sun, I did this often for many years. When I was younger I had tight skin which got better as I aged. Unfortunately as I grew from puberty I got more and more self conscious about being uncut (I’m in the UK, so it’s very common to be uncut), as I worried about the cleanliness aspect. This was to the point that I would rarely have sex unless I was drunk!

      Because I didn’t have phimosis I never thought it was an option for me, but this year I talked it through with my partner for the first time. I knew I would never be comfortable being uncut and we decided I should go to the GP. I mentioned why I wanted it, the main reasons were quite a significant impact on self confidence, but also that it was tight when I was erect and could sometimes be very uncomfortable. The GP referred me to the urologist and then 4 months later I had the surgery, and I’m now on day 9 of recovery.

      I can’t tell you the relief I feel knowing it’s finally done. I know already that my life has been made ten times better having it done, I just wish I hadn’t waited so long. Retracting it myself only highlighted how much I wanted it.

      I would say that if you’re considering it, and are confident this isn’t a short term desire, then go for it.

    • #44838 Reply
      SUN
      Guest

      I’m thinking about getting circumcised. My fiancee has started encouraging me after the attempts to keep the skin retracted have not worked well. I got a few hours at most of retraction with each try before the skin moved forward again. I kept pulling it back, and even my GF started helping by pushing it back when she saw it had moved forward. This happened multiple times during the day and many times at night too even though i got used to sleeping with a hair band holding the foreskin back. So neither of us had any luck with that.

      SUN

    • #44839 Reply
      G S
      Guest

      I was done yesterday. Not a big deal at all so far healing is event less.

    • #45963 Reply
      Larry
      Guest

      I’ve decided to go ahead and get it done. I’m 56. I’ve been retracting for 3 months as a test and I’ve enjoyed the extra sensitive feeling and it seems to be less odor and such. i think the foreskin has even shrunk a little, which I like. I always felt that the foreskin was ugly and it doesn’t seem to serve any purpose except get in the way and made hygiene more difficult. Just a nuisance really. My question is how do adults do it regarding the anesthesia? I have had bad experiences perviously with general anesthesia, such as severe nausea and even an allergic reaction. At the same time, I am an easily squeemish person when it comes to medical stuff. I have fainted before when just getting blood taken, so I’m wondering what I should say to the Urologist next week during my consultation.

    • #45966 Reply
      Martin
      Guest

      Get a local anesthetic, that’s all you need. You will be lying back so you wont see the needle go in. You will feel almost nothing.

    • #46000 Reply
      SUN
      Guest

      I have finally decided to do it. My fiancee and I talked a lot about it last weekend and we mutually decide to proceed since keeping the skin back and trying vairious methods to do so have not worked very well. I will be taking the plunge this week. I hope it won’t be too painful. But even if it is, we feel there is a long term benefit to make any short term pain worthwhile.

      • #46003 Reply
        GS
        Guest

        Congratulations. You won’t be sorry. I surely am not!

      • #46005 Reply
        Kenneth
        Guest

        Congratulations, you’ve made a very good decision. My fiancée is very pleased that I’m circumcised; we would both recommend it.

    • #46034 Reply
      matt
      Guest

      Congratulations on deciding to get circumcised. That’s great!

    • #46052 Reply
      Robert
      Guest

      To Sun,good for you. I think you will be pleased. I was age 20. Spouse never requested it, needed medical cut, so it’s afterwards she admitted she preferred my penis circumcised as her brother was, and Kenneth & GS & matt for providing encouragement and support. Just get information on what style if you do. That’s what these wonderful forum’s are for. Thank you

      • #46055 Reply
        matt
        Guest

        Yes, decide what style you want. I feel very lucky to have ultimately ended up “high and tight”, especially after the surgeon asked me what I wanted and I didn’t really know what to say, to which his response was “well i’ll be kind and leave you some extra skin because of your age”, meaning he wouldn’t set out to completely remove my ability to masturbate the way I’d likely become accustomed to doing it.
        I’d definitely ask for a tight circumcision. You can have a low and tight and hide the scar in the sulcus if you prefer that “perfect” look, but I think a scar set a good way up the shaft looks very masculine. Each to their own though. Point being – know what you want and don’t be shy in asking for it!

    • #46061 Reply
      Robert
      Guest

      Matt-thank you. If I had a choice in type/style, I would have requested what you have-high and tight or even high and slightly looses. A low cut definitely required lubricant, no skin to pull forward at all. Oddly, sex was out. I felt things I never felt before, as did my wife. Keep helping others by posting or replies. A great site

    • #46062 Reply
      Robert
      Guest

      Matt-once again, point I missed, was I have seen many circumcisions prior to mine, as Rn in OR. I do prefer the “style “ you ended up with, I do think a high cut with change in skin tone is aesthetically pleasing/masculine as well. Your posts help others. Thank you

    • #46221 Reply
      SUN
      Guest

      I have finally done it. Last week. Still healing. They used a freehand method. I can now see the scar line when I clean the wound and change bandages. There is clear line with a color change. It defiantly looks circumcised. Swelling is almost gone. I think im on a good path. My fiancé should be happy when All is healed. I apply antibacterial cream every day. I can now expose it to water in the shower. But it is really sensitive. Then let it air dry. Apply my cream. Let it absorb for 20 mins. Then get dressed. There was no pain. Just uncomfortable because the head is not used to be exposed and rubbing directly against clothing because it is so sensitive. I guess that will reduce in time.

      • #46223 Reply
        Kenneth
        Guest

        Congratulations on getting circumcised! Welcome to the club!

      • #46225 Reply
        GS
        Guest

        Congratulations. It only gets better from here.

    • #46224 Reply
      Peter & Natasha
      Guest

      Congratulations on getting circumcised! Yes, your glans penis will gradually become less sensitive and will be fine when rubbing against clothes. Peter

    • #46226 Reply
      matt
      Guest

      Congratulations on getting circumcised. In another couple of weeks you’ll really start to see the healing progress and your tender glans will settle down. The exposure and bruising from the cut will cause increased tenderness for a little while but that will soon go.

    • #46230 Reply
      John
      Guest

      Congratulations Sun, I hope the recovery goes well and that you are soon able to enjoy the new look and feel.
      I am a few months behind your journey. I have started retracting my foreskin all the time which is goes really well. Fortunately it stays retracted all day and all night. I am increasingly certain that I will get circumcised soon and it feels like a relief to have got to this point having wondered about it for so long. I’m finding that I’m beginning to think of myself as circumcised and when I wash my foreskin in the shower it doesn’t feel right until I have retracted it again.
      My partner is supportive. She doesn’t have any preference and says that she wants me to feel happy with my penis and if that means circumcision she is fine with that.

      • #46234 Reply
        matt
        Guest

        It sounds like you need to book a consultation at a dedicated circumcision clinic and talk it through with a consultant urologist. They’ll put your mind at ease and accommodate your requirements for a high and tight circumcision (or whatever style you think you’d like. You can be in and out in an hour and a half, back to work after a week and healed in a month.

    • #46244 Reply
      SUN
      Guest

      Just a quick update. No more bandages. Just 1 application of vitamin E cream daily to help the scar heal and thin out. My fiancée and I think it looks great. We have had limited sexual fun because it’s still healing but a slow handjob over the weekend felt very different. Really, it’s like a new body part to learn. But it was fun and we are looking forward to more new sensations.

      • #46289 Reply
        Jessica
        Guest

        Hi Sun,

        As my fiancé got circumcised a few months ago I can genuinely say that your fiancé will very much enjoy your “new” look! Congrats!!!

    • #46290 Reply
      SUN
      Guest

      Thanks Jessica,

      What can I expect over the next few months in terms of changes and healing? How did you both ease into sex again during healing time?

      • #46294 Reply
        Jessica
        Guest

        Hi Sun,

        You absolutely have no sexual contact until you are cleared to do so by your doctor. In my fiancés case it was just over 9 weeks and we started very slow sexually. We started with hand/oral stuff before he was comfortable moving on to sex.

    • #46291 Reply
      J90
      Guest

      It’s best not to have sex/do things that might separate the incision line while you’re still healing, give it six to eight weeks.

      Swelling sometimes takes more time to go down, depends a lot on the style of cut you got. I wore boxer briefs while the cut line healed, so my trousers weren’t moving over it/snagging on stitches. After a couple of months things will be close to normal, you’ll still be aware of the change but it won’t preoccupy you.

    • #46296 Reply
      SUN
      Guest

      Jessica,

      What is your experience before and after and how much has changed? My fiancee always felt that foreskin was in the way and it just wasn’t needed. Did you feel that way also? For anyone else, do most women feel that way?

    • #46663 Reply
      Tor
      Guest

      Hey SUN,
      Congratulations on your circumcision. That went much faster than mine. I had retracted for about 20 years and sort of always felt somewhat circumcised. Or as someone else described it “pre-cut.”
      Similar to other people’s comments, I hated when my foreskin rolled forward and covered my glans. It just didn’t feel right anymore. Sex was always pretty good, but it was annoying trying to keep my foreskin pulled back nice and tight, keeping my glans exposed.

      I finally had my circumcision 10 days ago.
      So I’m curious what style you chose, or if you had a choice with your urologist?
      Did you get high and tight?
      Also, did they remove the frenulum?

      I still have some time for healing, but can’t wait to let my GF start using it again!
      Hope all is well.

    • #46822 Reply
      Ronald
      Guest

      I;m pretty amazed I have to be honest. I have been retracting for 3 months consistently, and by gosh my foreskin HAS shrunk. It never covers the head now. Not even when I bend forward or sit. I would never have believed it. But it is really true. Now I am skinned back permanently and I really enjoy the feeling. The head is always dry. No wetness under the foreskin. Hygiene is way better. No droplets in my underwear. I am enjoying the exposed feeling rubbing inside my underwear. After I urinate, it almost immediately dries out and stays clean and dry. And no one knows about it so it’s my little secret. I wish I had tried this much Sooner!

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