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August 18, 2016 at 12:57 pm #1602
When I met my husband he wasn’t circumcised. After being together for a while and being comfortable with each other I one day retracted his foreskin and said “you should leave it like that.” When he asked me why, I was honest and told him that I think it looked better than when his head was covered. He said he would think about it but didn’t make any promises. For the next month or so, whenever I saw him naked, I’d pull back his foreskin and he’d leave it that way – he just never did it on his own. Our relationship progressed and my little “game” went one for a few months.
He eventually began to travel for work and these trips would sometimes last up to two weeks. After one of these extended trips, while he was changing, I went to pull his foreskin back but noticed I didn’t need to. He told me that the day after he left he decided he would keep this skin pulled back permanently as I liked it so much and he was getting more used to it. For a few months, his skin would still occasionally roll forward, but eventually it got “trained” to stay back.
I had asked him a few times if he ever thought about getting circumcised but he hadn’t and since his skin was permanently retracted I never pushed the issue. A couple of years later we were married and had a son, who we both agreed to get circumcised. One year, after a physical, my husband told me he’d talked to his doctor about getting circumcised and was referred to a urologist. My husband had set up an appointment and was getting circumcised the next month. I was pretty happy and he was circumcised and healed without any issues.
When my kids were older we started going to a lake house every summer with my BIL, his wife and his kids (his sons were also circumcised). One year my SIL walked in on my husband and I changing and she saw my husband was circumcised. Later that night she pulled me aside and asked me about it. I told her my story and about my husband’s circumcision. She said she wished my BIL would get it done but he was perfectly happy being uncircumcised. She said she would try to get him to keep his foreskin retracted.
The next year, she confided in me that my BIL had gotten to circumcised. He had tried to keep his skin retracted but it wouldn’t stay and instead of trying to leave it that way, he just decided to get it removed.
September 19, 2016 at 11:13 pm #1613
Thank you for sharing this story. Is there any chance you would share this site with your husband or brother-in-law? I’d love to have their experiences first-hand in the forums.
September 30, 2016 at 12:57 pm #1618
I am married and am considering getting cut myself, primarily for the aesthetic appeal. Did you or your husband notice any difference in pleasure/sensitivity afterwards?
June 5, 2017 at 2:45 pm #6799
Hai! We married in 2005 and found that he is suffering uneasy with his lengthy foreskin while at sex. He always used to pullback foreskin looking like circumcised. After normalcy it comeback covering tip of penis. Then I came to know circumcision and I took him to a doctor and he was circumcised in presence of me and now afterwards no smegma or uneasy. Now he is proud to be a circumcised men.(pl don’t publish my email)
June 19, 2017 at 1:38 am #6951
I am from the Fiji island and I am married to a man who is uncut it looks weird and the cover doesn’t pull up all the way it looks like a turtle neck I want him to get a dorsal cut to relieve the cover so I feel the head inside it gets stuck so we are pondering on my he issue
July 18, 2017 at 3:00 pm #7033
I was circumcised at my own request some time after I was married. At the time my wife was at best indifferent and probably thought I was a little mad. She has since changed her mind and now greatly prefers me circumcised. My wife also thinks Jewish women are so lucky and she would be especially pleased to attend a Bris.
We have not had a boy, but if we had, we both agree we would circumcise him. and we would have wanted any son of ours to be circumcised at home by a mohel (although we are not Jewish), we just think they are the most expert in doing infant circumcisions.
I have two regrets:
I wish my mother had got me circumcised as a baby.
I wish my wife had known about circumcision and if I wasn’t already circumcised, had insisted on it before we married.
August 8, 2017 at 10:18 am #7062
I am a 29 year old American male who is uncircumcised. My girlfriend (27) had told me about her newborn nephew being circumcised and that got us talking about our potential future child. She insisted that he will be circumcised even though I’d rather let the boy make that decision for himself when he is older. But even if I try to reason with her she seems to have her mind set. No matter what. So it makes me wonder what she wants from me and my penis. I told her if the baby gets circumcised then I have to get circumcised as well. She agreed. So yes, I’m excited to one day get circumcised when I get a little more money saved up. And I will choose a high and tight circumcision style for myself. It must be done for my girlfriend, and for myself. I am so excited and can’t wait to be fully American and to start a circumcised legacy for my family. And lastly I can’t wait to sexually satisfy my girl with a penis that she wants and prefers. And I know it will feel great.
September 6, 2017 at 3:33 am #7129
I was in a similar situation when I started dating my wife. She came from a culture where circumcision was done routine and was surprised to find out I was uncut. She began to pressure me about getting circumcised and was adamant that any future son would be circumcised. I began to read up on circumcision and found that there was several medical benefits and was hygienically better. I eventually booked an appointment and scheduled the procedure. I was done low and tight with the frenulum removed. I have no regrets and my wife loves it. We recently had our second child that was a boy and had him circumcised.
September 13, 2017 at 5:43 pm #7135
Which cultures you are talking about? Makes me wonder…
Either way, welcome to the tribe of tbe marked ones, Mark;)
All the best!
December 1, 2017 at 12:13 pm #7508
Aurora, Great story! Wives who prefer that look should help him like you did. I think most women prefer the clean look, I do also. My husband was done at age 20 and has never regretted having it. Now at 56 years old he has lost just a small amount of sensitivity which allows him to last longer. I must say that it improved our sex lives because he always ejaculated so quickly but since the clip, can go longer which matches us perfectly.
May 9, 2018 at 10:33 am #8164
Ann, I also had a talk with my husband about having this modification. He had an excess of foreskin and was having problems. At 31 he was altered and has never regretted it. He is now 66 years old and is still quite sexual, no signs of being impotent. We still have sex at least three times a week and he is always rock hard! This has been such a vast improvement for us.
December 2, 2017 at 12:49 pm #7509
I think that while circumcision is debated for health and aesthetic reasons, a big part of it is family–almost tribal–solidarity. I was not circ’d at birth. When I was old enough to notice, I realized my dad was circumcised. Realizing we were different made a huge impression on me, though I do not remember saying anything about it, as such things were never discussed in my family. Years later I my dad brought the matter up and urged me to get circumcised. He’d had his done shortly after I was born! I wish my parents had had me cut when I had my tonsils out, or some other time when I was small. But at age 16 when dad mentioned it, the thought of going to the doctor, having an operation, etc. was too scary and, frankly, embarrassing. Dad never pursued the idea and our discussion was not thorough or had in a way to relieve anxiety or assure me. I was virtually the only uncirc’d kid in school and was very sensitive to the difference. The teasing was awful! But I never admitted this to my father or anyone else. After I was grown, I finally got it done and was so glad I did. Dad had already passed on, so I never got the chance to talk things over with him. People often say they are going to leave their boys uncirc’d so they can have a choice, but in our culture there is not much “out and open” way for guys to make this “choice” without embarrassment or fear of the surgery. Are there others who came to their decision by the example or discussion with relatives? Also, would Choicemaker comment on influences from his father or brothers, if any.
December 3, 2017 at 7:55 am #7512
Did you ever ask why they didn’t have you circumcised? Especially since your dad was circumcised shortly after your birth? Why did he have it done?
My dad was circumcised when I was a teenager. Neither one of my parents brought up that he was having it done.
December 5, 2017 at 9:52 pm #7517
I was likely not circumcised because I was born in a rural hospital where the attending physician was not resident. I also had an aunt who was vocally opposed. My father had his done so that he would last longer with sex. I should also add that all other male family members: grandfather, cousins, etc. were circumcised.
December 25, 2017 at 8:25 am #7544
Hi guys, I am an African man and sixty year old now. I am circumcised twice. First traditionally in year 1981 (aged 24) and secondly medically in year 2012 (aged 55). My first circumcision was done in the bushes or forest very early in the morning by a traditional surgeon or circumciser or Ingcibi. The operation lasted about five seconds, then I was a man. It was a wonderful experience to see my foreskin exposed though not completely, and with my severed foreskin in my hand. It was also a good experience to go out deep into the forest to bury my severed foreskin.
During my first circumcision in 1981, the traditional surgeon failed to cut my foreskin completely, he removed about 30% of it. So the head of my penis was half exposed which was a very ugly thing. So I lived with this situation for 31 years. During this period I was having a burden of cleaning my penis everytime I had asexual intercourse.
So together with my wife we decided that I need to circumcise. Finally, in December 2012, I took a bold decision by going to hospital where my remaining foreskin was cut off completely. I thanked those three women or nurses who did a wonderful job on my penis by cutting my foreskin completely. Now I am a real man. Lastly, I thanked my female office colleagues who encouraged me to go and do this second circumcision for both cosmetic and hygienic reasons, Alicia, Nobubele and Thandi thank you girls, now I am a real man because of you girls. The head of my penis is fully exposed now. From South Africa.
January 18, 2018 at 11:20 am #7651
My husband and I were married two years when he had his removed and we both feel that it has been a good move. He is now sixty four years old and still gets erect as ever, although he has said that he is slightly less sensitive which is good because before, he usually orgasmed much too soon. For us its been great, I fully support male circumcision !!
January 19, 2018 at 7:05 am #7661
I think most women do prefer a circumcised penis.
It looks a lot better and I hear they can feel the glans more during intercourse for a better sexual experience.
January 22, 2018 at 6:03 pm #7681
what i want to know is not how to convince a guy to be cut, but how to bring up the topics sensitively and gauge is he is willing to at least talk about it, and then where to go from there. it’s not a necessary, but if he wanted to do it, i certainly would not talk him out of it. he has already mentioned that he sometimes feels wierd in the locker room at the gym, and a few times he went to a nude beach, but he does not harp on it. but i almost think his is thinking about it, and just wants support.
February 15, 2018 at 6:57 pm #7880
As a guy, I think the best way would be to start by just asking him “Hey, have you ever wondered what it would be like to be circumcised?” – preferably with your hands on his penis. That would be a way to at least initiate the conversation in a non-threatening manner and see where it goes. You could then follow up with something like “You know I love your cock, but it would also look really hot like this…” as you pull back his foreskin.
I know I would have been receptive to an approach like this at any point over the last 25 or so years…
March 3, 2018 at 7:25 pm #7938
There is a flip side. I’m keen to get cut but do not quite know how to bring it up with my wife and finding the right moment. So if she asked me about it that would be great. Sounds like he’s thought about it a lot. Perhaps you could just ask him if he could consider to get it done for you, men do really want to please the woman they love. Give him gentle encouragement. ‘hardware’ post has valid points.
February 15, 2018 at 4:07 pm #7879
I HAD LIVED ABOUT A YEAR AND HAFT WITH AN UNCIRCUMCISED PARTNER. SO WHEN I MET MY HUSBAND TO BE HAD OUR FIRST INTIMATE ENCOUNTER I WAS RELIVED TO SEE HIS PENIS IS CIRCUMCISED SINCE I WAS AWARE OF THE DIFERENCES AND HOW THEY DETRACT FROM INTIMACY
March 4, 2018 at 5:08 pm #7941
I had my penis circumcised when I was in my 30’s. I told the Doctor I wanted a very low and extremely tight cut. He all but refused to remove that much skin. I told him to mark it where he would normally cut then take another 1/2 inch of skin. He finally agreed. It did end up being really tight.At first I thought I made a mistake. But the skin streached a little and it was just perfect! My glans have always been fully exposed! Even soft I have no wrinkles or folds of redundant foreskin. I love my tight circumcision and am so glad I talked the doctor into taking the extra skin off. I never had painful erections because the skin pulled and was extremely tight! Love my super tight circumcision!
March 16, 2018 at 6:53 pm #7984
What was your reason for doing it Jim?
April 1, 2018 at 5:11 pm #8033
My husband is now thinking about it. I just asked him if he every though about it before, and I was surprised when he said yes. They he asked me why do I ask. I just said no reason, cause i did not want to make him self conscious. then he said maybe someday and that was the end of the conversation. then the next day he said if he ever did want to do it there would have to be a good reason, and then he said he did think that it looks better. I never said anything after that. I will give him more time.
May 9, 2018 at 10:45 am #8165
Suze, you are wise to not rush him into a decision. During a love making session you could pull back his extra skin and tell him it looks nice like that and other little compliments. Let him know that whatever he decides is fine with you. When my guy had it, I let him know how beautiful it was and then gave him a fabulous BJ. He understood right off that I loved his new look!
May 5, 2018 at 5:18 am #8147
How does it look now?
Im worried about scaring on hubbys