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    When I met my husband he wasn’t circumcised. After being together for a while and being comfortable with each other I one day retracted his foreskin and said “you should leave it like that.” When he asked me why, I was honest and told him that I think it looked better than when his head was covered. He said he would think about it but didn’t make any promises. For the next month or so, whenever I saw him naked, I’d pull back his foreskin and he’d leave it that way – he just never did it on his own. Our relationship progressed and my little “game” went one for a few months.

    He eventually began to travel for work and these trips would sometimes last up to two weeks. After one of these extended trips, while he was changing, I went to pull his foreskin back but noticed I didn’t need to. He told me that the day after he left he decided he would keep this skin pulled back permanently as I liked it so much and he was getting more used to it. For a few months, his skin would still occasionally roll forward, but eventually it got “trained” to stay back.

    I had asked him a few times if he ever thought about getting circumcised but he hadn’t and since his skin was permanently retracted I never pushed the issue. A couple of years later we were married and had a son, who we both agreed to get circumcised. One year, after a physical, my husband told me he’d talked to his doctor about getting circumcised and was referred to a urologist. My husband had set up an appointment and was getting circumcised the next month. I was pretty happy and he was circumcised and healed without any issues.

    When my kids were older we started going to a lake house every summer with my BIL, his wife and his kids (his sons were also circumcised). One year my SIL walked in on my husband and I changing and she saw my husband was circumcised. Later that night she pulled me aside and asked me about it. I told her my story and about my husband’s circumcision. She said she wished my BIL would get it done but he was perfectly happy being uncircumcised. She said she would try to get him to keep his foreskin retracted.

    The next year, she confided in me that my BIL had gotten to circumcised. He had tried to keep his skin retracted but it wouldn’t stay and instead of trying to leave it that way, he just decided to get it removed.

  • #1613 Reply

    Choice Maker


    Thank you for sharing this story. Is there any chance you would share this site with your husband or brother-in-law? I’d love to have their experiences first-hand in the forums.

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    I am married and am considering getting cut myself, primarily for the aesthetic appeal. Did you or your husband notice any difference in pleasure/sensitivity afterwards?

  • #6799 Reply


    Hai! We married in 2005 and found that he is suffering uneasy with his lengthy foreskin while at sex. He always used to pullback foreskin looking like circumcised. After normalcy it comeback covering tip of penis. Then I came to know circumcision and I took him to a doctor and he was circumcised in presence of me and now afterwards no smegma or uneasy. Now he is proud to be a circumcised men.(pl don’t publish my email)

  • #6951 Reply


    I am from the Fiji island and I am married to a man who is uncut it looks weird and the cover doesn’t pull up all the way it looks like a turtle neck I want him to get a dorsal cut to relieve the cover so I feel the head inside it gets stuck so we are pondering on my he issue

  • #7033 Reply


    I was circumcised at my own request some time after I was married. At the time my wife was at best indifferent and probably thought I was a little mad. She has since changed her mind and now greatly prefers me circumcised. My wife also thinks Jewish women are so lucky and she would be especially pleased to attend a Bris.

    We have not had a boy, but if we had, we both agree we would circumcise him. and we would have wanted any son of ours to be circumcised at home by a mohel (although we are not Jewish), we just think they are the most expert in doing infant circumcisions.

    I have two regrets:

    I wish my mother had got me circumcised as a baby.
    I wish my wife had known about circumcision and if I wasn’t already circumcised, had insisted on it before we married.


  • #7062 Reply


    I am a 29 year old American male who is uncircumcised. My girlfriend (27) had told me about her newborn nephew being circumcised and that got us talking about our potential future child. She insisted that he will be circumcised even though I’d rather let the boy make that decision for himself when he is older. But even if I try to reason with her she seems to have her mind set. No matter what. So it makes me wonder what she wants from me and my penis. I told her if the baby gets circumcised then I have to get circumcised as well. She agreed. So yes, I’m excited to one day get circumcised when I get a little more money saved up. And I will choose a high and tight circumcision style for myself. It must be done for my girlfriend, and for myself. I am so excited and can’t wait to be fully American and to start a circumcised legacy for my family. And lastly I can’t wait to sexually satisfy my girl with a penis that she wants and prefers. And I know it will feel great.

  • #7129 Reply


    I was in a similar situation when I started dating my wife. She came from a culture where circumcision was done routine and was surprised to find out I was uncut. She began to pressure me about getting circumcised and was adamant that any future son would be circumcised. I began to read up on circumcision and found that there was several medical benefits and was hygienically better. I eventually booked an appointment and scheduled the procedure. I was done low and tight with the frenulum removed. I have no regrets and my wife loves it. We recently had our second child that was a boy and had him circumcised.

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      Which cultures you are talking about? Makes me wonder…

      Either way, welcome to the tribe of tbe marked ones, Mark;)
      All the best!

  • #7508 Reply


    Aurora, Great story! Wives who prefer that look should help him like you did. I think most women prefer the clean look, I do also. My husband was done at age 20 and has never regretted having it. Now at 56 years old he has lost just a small amount of sensitivity which allows him to last longer. I must say that it improved our sex lives because he always ejaculated so quickly but since the clip, can go longer which matches us perfectly.

    • #8164 Reply


      Ann, I also had a talk with my husband about having this modification. He had an excess of foreskin and was having problems. At 31 he was altered and has never regretted it. He is now 66 years old and is still quite sexual, no signs of being impotent. We still have sex at least three times a week and he is always rock hard! This has been such a vast improvement for us.

  • #7509 Reply


    I think that while circumcision is debated for health and aesthetic reasons, a big part of it is family–almost tribal–solidarity. I was not circ’d at birth. When I was old enough to notice, I realized my dad was circumcised. Realizing we were different made a huge impression on me, though I do not remember saying anything about it, as such things were never discussed in my family. Years later I my dad brought the matter up and urged me to get circumcised. He’d had his done shortly after I was born! I wish my parents had had me cut when I had my tonsils out, or some other time when I was small. But at age 16 when dad mentioned it, the thought of going to the doctor, having an operation, etc. was too scary and, frankly, embarrassing. Dad never pursued the idea and our discussion was not thorough or had in a way to relieve anxiety or assure me. I was virtually the only uncirc’d kid in school and was very sensitive to the difference. The teasing was awful! But I never admitted this to my father or anyone else. After I was grown, I finally got it done and was so glad I did. Dad had already passed on, so I never got the chance to talk things over with him. People often say they are going to leave their boys uncirc’d so they can have a choice, but in our culture there is not much “out and open” way for guys to make this “choice” without embarrassment or fear of the surgery. Are there others who came to their decision by the example or discussion with relatives? Also, would Choicemaker comment on influences from his father or brothers, if any.

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    Did you ever ask why they didn’t have you circumcised? Especially since your dad was circumcised shortly after your birth? Why did he have it done?

    My dad was circumcised when I was a teenager. Neither one of my parents brought up that he was having it done.

  • #7517 Reply


    I was likely not circumcised because I was born in a rural hospital where the attending physician was not resident. I also had an aunt who was vocally opposed. My father had his done so that he would last longer with sex. I should also add that all other male family members: grandfather, cousins, etc. were circumcised.

  • #7544 Reply


    Hi guys, I am an African man and sixty year old now. I am circumcised twice. First traditionally in year 1981 (aged 24) and secondly medically in year 2012 (aged 55). My first circumcision was done in the bushes or forest very early in the morning by a traditional surgeon or circumciser or Ingcibi. The operation lasted about five seconds, then I was a man. It was a wonderful experience to see my foreskin exposed though not completely, and with my severed foreskin in my hand. It was also a good experience to go out deep into the forest to bury my severed foreskin.

    During my first circumcision in 1981, the traditional surgeon failed to cut my foreskin completely, he removed about 30% of it. So the head of my penis was half exposed which was a very ugly thing. So I lived with this situation for 31 years. During this period I was having a burden of cleaning my penis everytime I had asexual intercourse.

    So together with my wife we decided that I need to circumcise. Finally, in December 2012, I took a bold decision by going to hospital where my remaining foreskin was cut off completely. I thanked those three women or nurses who did a wonderful job on my penis by cutting my foreskin completely. Now I am a real man. Lastly, I thanked my female office colleagues who encouraged me to go and do this second circumcision for both cosmetic and hygienic reasons, Alicia, Nobubele and Thandi thank you girls, now I am a real man because of you girls. The head of my penis is fully exposed now. From South Africa.

  • #7651 Reply


    My husband and I were married two years when he had his removed and we both feel that it has been a good move. He is now sixty four years old and still gets erect as ever, although he has said that he is slightly less sensitive which is good because before, he usually orgasmed much too soon. For us its been great, I fully support male circumcision !!

    • #7661 Reply


      I think most women do prefer a circumcised penis.

      It looks a lot better and I hear they can feel the glans more during intercourse for a better sexual experience.

  • #7681 Reply


    what i want to know is not how to convince a guy to be cut, but how to bring up the topics sensitively and gauge is he is willing to at least talk about it, and then where to go from there. it’s not a necessary, but if he wanted to do it, i certainly would not talk him out of it. he has already mentioned that he sometimes feels wierd in the locker room at the gym, and a few times he went to a nude beach, but he does not harp on it. but i almost think his is thinking about it, and just wants support.

    • #7880 Reply


      As a guy, I think the best way would be to start by just asking him “Hey, have you ever wondered what it would be like to be circumcised?” – preferably with your hands on his penis. That would be a way to at least initiate the conversation in a non-threatening manner and see where it goes. You could then follow up with something like “You know I love your cock, but it would also look really hot like this…” as you pull back his foreskin.

      I know I would have been receptive to an approach like this at any point over the last 25 or so years…

    • #7938 Reply


      Hi Suze.

      There is a flip side. I’m keen to get cut but do not quite know how to bring it up with my wife and finding the right moment. So if she asked me about it that would be great. Sounds like he’s thought about it a lot. Perhaps you could just ask him if he could consider to get it done for you, men do really want to please the woman they love. Give him gentle encouragement. ‘hardware’ post has valid points.

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    I had my penis circumcised when I was in my 30’s. I told the Doctor I wanted a very low and extremely tight cut. He all but refused to remove that much skin. I told him to mark it where he would normally cut then take another 1/2 inch of skin. He finally agreed. It did end up being really tight.At first I thought I made a mistake. But the skin streached a little and it was just perfect! My glans have always been fully exposed! Even soft I have no wrinkles or folds of redundant foreskin. I love my tight circumcision and am so glad I talked the doctor into taking the extra skin off. I never had painful erections because the skin pulled and was extremely tight! Love my super tight circumcision!

  • #7984 Reply


    What was your reason for doing it Jim?

  • #8033 Reply


    My husband is now thinking about it. I just asked him if he every though about it before, and I was surprised when he said yes. They he asked me why do I ask. I just said no reason, cause i did not want to make him self conscious. then he said maybe someday and that was the end of the conversation. then the next day he said if he ever did want to do it there would have to be a good reason, and then he said he did think that it looks better. I never said anything after that. I will give him more time.

    • #8165 Reply


      Suze, you are wise to not rush him into a decision. During a love making session you could pull back his extra skin and tell him it looks nice like that and other little compliments. Let him know that whatever he decides is fine with you. When my guy had it, I let him know how beautiful it was and then gave him a fabulous BJ. He understood right off that I loved his new look!

  • #8147 Reply


    How does it look now?

    Im worried about scaring on hubbys

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    We have an apt. made for 2 weeks out. We still have time to change our mind. I can tell my Husband is getting nervous. It is making me nervous too. I will keep you posted. Right now, I am looking forward to going through with it. Getting past the healing. and having a positive outcome. it seems like hubby is on board.

    • #8334 Reply


      suze: Good for you for encouraging him !! I had mine taken off two years ago and I love it!! My wife is very pleased how everything turned out. It is so important for you to support him and tell him how beautiful it looks. Yes, the healing was not so pleasant but the first time we had intercourse, it was so much better and now she loves giving me oral ! Another thing, mine was done by a lady doctor who has done hundreds of them. She knew exactly how much should be removed and left almost invisible scar. Please keep us informed of how things are going.

  • #8249 Reply


    hi from Italy; I found this blog quite interesting especially if you think here in Europe circumcision is increasing but not so widely performed. I work as a phisician now and my experience about foreskin began when I was 15 yo. My dad bought an health magazine for families on which he read a lond article about circumcision. After reading that he talked me about the issue and his purpose to book me to the urologist to have an exam. It would have been the first circumcision in family, but he reassured me. Everything was ok and I had that “little snip” done in hospital. When I came back from the operatory room and removed the sheet I saw the foreskin had gone completely and the frenum too. It was quite different frome my previous look. The complete lack of skin movement leaded me to get used to different “management” of my penis, but it has been ok.
    When I dated girls I never had problems and my wife is glad with my status. We have a son, but here it has been impossible to have a newborn surgery so we waited for his infancy to get him circumcised. Professionally I’m generally in favour to circumcision, but I don’t think anyone has to be pressed to do that.

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    Hope you go ahead. Warn him that it may not look very pretty to begin with, but that is normal.

    Good luck.

  • #8398 Reply


    i’d like to connect with women whose husbands had it done. i am not sure we are doing the right thing.

    • #8719 Reply


      You are definitely doing the right thing. I circumcised my husband with a plastic circumcision clamp. It looks so beautiful now and it’s so tight and smooth and clean. He lost a very small amount of sensitivity that he doesn’t miss and I’m very glad he lost sensitively as he lasts a lot longer now

  • #8404 Reply


    It’s not uncommon for men to get circumcised at their wives request. I worked with two women, both of whom had circumcised husbands and I myself got it done to please my wife. It also stopped her bouts of cystitis. From school days, I remember a blatant correlation between friends who were circumcised having mothers who worked in medical jobs, be they nurses, receptionists, chemists etc. this is in the UK. people do it. they just dont talk about it.

  • #8405 Reply


    It’s not uncommon for men to get circumcised at their wives request. I worked with two women, both of whom had circumcised husbands and I myself got it done to please my wife. It also stopped her bouts of cystitis. From school days, I remember a blatant correlation between friends who were circumcised having mothers who worked in medical jobs, be they nurses, receptionists, chemists etc. this is in the UK. people do it. they just dont talk about it.

  • #8549 Reply


    I have followed the circumcision debate for a long time and have argued about the pure aesthetics of how glad I am I was circumcised at birth. Not for health reasons, like smegma, and stink, but how much I love the look of my circumcised penis.
    Like my younger sister said about uncircumcised penises…”an ugly penis”

    • #8564 Reply


      How did that conversation come up with your sister? Not something I talk to family about.

  • #8725 Reply


    I have been circumcised four times, trying to get penis to look circumcised. I still have too much of my foreskin remaining. My late wife did not like all of my loose foreskin, to together we went to three different doctors and each one circumcised me. I still have too much foreskin remaining. My wife watched her husband being circumcised each time.
    After each circumcision my wife noticed a great improvement during sex. She always said that if I was not circumcised when we meet, she would have required me to have my penis circumcised.
    My first circumcision was a modified dorsal slit, done when I was married to my first wife. I had always kept my foreskin retracted, I started when I was about 8 years old, it did not always stay back, but I was persistent and at about 13 my foreskin stayed back all the time. To cover my glans I had to push it back over. It would stay that way if I left it, but I hated my foreskin so I always left it back.
    After my first circumcision by glans would not stay covered anymore, my remaining foreskin would roll back by itself if I tried to cover my glans. I thought I was circumcised and I was. I had the scars to prove it.
    Since so little of my foreskin was removed, it was almost the same as just having my foreskin pulled back, except now I could not keep my glans covered. My wife did not notice any different during sex. My penis looked the same as when I just had my foreskin pulled back. Except now I had a huge wad of skin hanging under the tip of my penis.
    When I meet my late wife, she knew I was circumcised, but she did not care for all the loose foreskin that I still had. She was very pro circumcision, her first husband was circumcised at birth and done very tight, she said that the skin remaining on his penis would barely move when he was soft and not at all when he was erect. She came from a family where everyone was circumcised, including her father who was born in 1913.
    I am so happy that my late wife insisted that I have another circumcision, still would have been so much better if my mother would have had me circumcised when I was born. She had her boys circumcised when they were born.
    I am considering having my penis circumcised again to remove the rest of my remaining foreskin. My current lady friend is also pro circumcision but thinks my circumcision is done just fine. Time will tell I guess.
    I have never regretted having my penis circumcised, best gift that I ever gave to myself. Just wished my mother would have given me that gift at birth. My circumcision done at birth would have been complete and all of my foreskin would have been removed the first time.
    When my late wife told me that I should have my penis circumcised again, I was not offended, I was elated. I had always wanted a complete and tight circumcised penis. I was happy to please her, she did know best.

  • #8762 Reply


    Four times? For real? I realise that a circumcision might loosen over time for some guys but there are risks with any procedure- were you done tightly last time, or did it loosen? It’s important to get the cut you want, but variations in anatomy can limit this- I think most guys can have it so the skin isn’t folded on erection, but that can mean a wide variation in the result when soft. I was fairly lucky, being a shower rather than a grower, and so my relatively tight cut left the head exposed all the time and it’s been that way for nearly ten years. I realise a lot of the health and hygiene benefits come from having the glans permanently exposed, but you don’t want to do that at the expense of having scrotal skin drawn up the shaft on erection or other potential complications.

    A penis varies quite a bit in size and so in skin looseness throughout the day, just because of temperature, stimulation etc. In a (cold!) shower earlier today, the skin was bunched up behind the rim, and now in jeans without underwear in a warm room the whole head and shaft behind it is uncovered.

    If your cut gives you the right tightness for having sex, but on the soft you still have some coverage, I recommend going underwear-free. The slight stimulation keeps blood flow going to your penis, helping you “outgrow” a foreskin remnant, and the airflow and freedom to move will be a health and hygiene benefit, even if your head doesn’t come fully free. You could also wear loose boxers, if your trousers are too thin or too rough.

  • #9122 Reply


    Thats how it started with my boyfriend and me, I would pull his skin back and tell him how good it looks and that he should leave it like that. He asked me why and I was honest and said because it looks way better with the head out than covered.

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      How long did it take you to convince him 5o get circumcised? What was the biggest hurdle?

      • #9158 Reply


        Hi John,

        As of now he has not been circumcised. I brought up the topic with him a couple of weeks ago and after his initial shock we have been talking about it. It started as subtle hints such as pulling his skin back whenever I saw his penis or when we would fool around I would keep his skin back tight for oral. One day after I pulled his foreskin back and told him I love to see the head, he flat out asked me if I had a preference. I told him that I love him but I do prefer the look of a circumcised penis as foreskin isn’t very attractive. I told him that’s why I have him “wash up” before engaging in any oral with him. I told him I don’t like the feeling of the skin moving up and down in my mouth and that’s why I always hold it back. He has begun to open his mind to the idea so we are still actively discussing it.

      • #9159 Reply


        Hi John,

        I forgot to mention, this topic came up because of the “play” we would do. I would hold his foreskin back during times of oral, handies and sex to keep his head exposed. This brought up the topic.

  • #9130 Reply


    That is also what my wife did and it did work. At first i did feel that it was rude. But after a few times it convinced me. It is hard to want to please someone you love.

  • #9149 Reply


    I dont really want to use the word “convinced”. I hinted a preference and benefits so he would start thinking about that. I did this about 10 times. It took 8 months. It could have been done sooner but i left the timing up to his choice.

    • #9160 Reply


      Hi Suze,

      So your husband ended up going through with it? Hows did it go? How does it looks? Any changes?

  • #9161 Reply


    Hi, I’m a husband who is getting circumcised tomorrow. Very excited!
    Have wanted it done for literally 35 years. Want it very high and
    tight; the keenest sensation I get is when the foreskin is pulled
    as far back, with considerable force, as possible. But having
    trouble deciding whether to have the frenulum removed. My wife does
    not care which. Does anybody have an opinion? Many thanks in advance

  • #9162 Reply



    He did go through with it. We are satisfied with the result. It took a while for me to get used to the scar because it looked painful. Also, not seeing the foreskin and seeing the color change shocked me for the first week until i got used to it. His swelling and healing was difficult to watch, but He likes the new ‘tight’ feeling as he describes it and the underside of the scar is sensitive in a good way.

    • #9170 Reply


      Hi Suze,

      I can imagine the healing wasn’t very pleasant but as long as you both are happy with the result that is what counts. Have you noticed any difference in the feeling of sex? Oral? Obviously the esthetic is much nicer. Has your husband had any regrets?

    • #9171 Reply


      Hi Suze,

      One of my main motivations and suggestions to my boyfriend is that I feel that his foreskin distracts from our intimacy. I feel he and I are always fumbling around with it, trying to keep it down or him telling me he’s to “sensitive” and needs to keep it up. Also for some reason I I would like to feel more of him as I did with previous partners instead of him basically moving in and out of foreskin inside me.

      • #9269 Reply

        John Matthew

        Hi Suze and Jessica,
        I am 30 year old male, uncircumcised, but with a long tight foreskin. i have been thinking of circumcision after a girl expressed her opinion on my foreskin. Your chats makes me wonder if its better for me to get cut. If I do, how much should I get cut? will it affect sensitivity? loads of questions but not sure whats right for me. Docs have left it to me, saying either way is fine for me.

  • #9441 Reply


    Hi Jessica, I will admit it looks better, especially now that the scar has had plenty of time to heal and we are both used to seeing it. There is also less smell and cleaning before sex required. I have not noticed any difference in feel during sex. For oral it is easier to have tighter skin. Before I had to pull it down. I don’t know if he feels any difference during sex. I will ask him about that

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